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Date: 02/05/22 (0:42) Presentation (1:01) How to get her to invest? (2:50) First (Principles) (3:35) Only one can truly chase (5:15) Behavior needs a trigger (10:08) It’s easier to maintain chasing than to re-start it (13:20) Nobody likes to feel manipulated (15:52) We chase value (17:22) We chase scarcity (21:22) We chase validation (23:01) Second (Techniques) (23:10) Just don’t care (27:00) Disqualifier (28:32) Takeaway (30:08) Open Loop (32:58) Ad-hominem in general (33:42) Vagueness/Lack of Closure (37:00) Give 70% - 80% closure (38:32) Everyone always talks about showing high value but how do you convey that? No one ever explains how to show your high value. (42:25) Is it a sign of investment if a girl is leaning in to talk to me in the club? Like to a minor degree? And if she is speaking louder than earlier, trying for my attention. (46:15) How to avoid punishing the girl when I misinterpret a sexual advance? Aka investment on her end. (48:24) Not a question. A good anecdote about scarcity when going to Project Hollywood. It is interesting that it was only the first or second time you slept with three girls in a week, but were advanced enough for Project Hollywood. Helps calibrate expectations. (50:10) Is maintaining a chasing dynamic a matter of Value/Comfort? (51:12) How to make her chase when the time is short, such as day game? (52:01) What are common mistakes guys do that put them in a chasing frame and be more invested in the girl? (55:15) Did I hear you right earlier when you said shit tests are a sign of investment? (57:20) (Follow up on the open loop technique) When you create an open loop by not giving her the full information, you said you become high value in her eyes all of a sudden, is this absolute or relative value? (1:01:20) Question about “take away“. During a high point in the game, I can either take away or continue to escalate. How do I know which is better in different situations? (59:05) I’ve been seeing this girl, we’re exclusive and see each other regularly. However, she is iffy about the girlfriend label. Is that an investment/ willingness to leave the issue? (1:02:30) In a recent video, you talked about absence and how it’s powerful to get the girl to obsess over you, in what ways would absence actually kill investment from the girl? I feel like the more time you spend not being in contact with each other the less invested she becomes. (1:04:49) Do you maintain the energy of her qualifying off an instigation, like if she gets really loud and energetic because she responded well to negative polarity? (1:06:14) Are emotional spikes a form of investment from the girl? For example getting her to laugh, feeling sad, angry, worried, etc? (1:07:43) A lot of young English girls I speak with are quite chatty and it would seem like they are invested in the conversation. How do you distinguish this from the real investment? Is physical compliance a better indicator in this case? (1:09:56) When a girl is also seeing and sleeping with other guys, would that make her less invested with me? (1:10:59) The girl told me that she would only have sex after getting along with a male for half a year. Does it mean she is not interested, and I am unlikely to stay with the girl for half a year without sex? (1:12:09) How to find the balance between not chasing the girl, and her thinking you’re disinterested in her? Sometimes I feel like I have to chase a little otherwise she’d think I am not into her at all. (1:14:15) If a girl is against the idea of sharing you with other girls, is that a sign of her not being invested enough, or too much investment? (1:15:03) The girl I text (met online) recently every night refuses FaceTime with me although we have great interactions. How to convince her to do so before I invite her face to face? (1:15:40) Here’s a specific scenario I am in, what are the implications for investment? Put a girl that I had dated for a couple of months over the summer on reading for a week while I was out of town. She ghosted me after that. Texted her last week, she had just started dating someone else and was uncomfortable meeting up. This week she texted me unprompted asking for a drink. Who’s more invested? (1:20:25) I heard you use this term before, in earlier VGA calls - fractionation or something along those lines. What does it mean? (1:21:06) How to know if you have enough investment from the girl, to start investing less in the interaction and let the girl do all the talking? (1:22:20) Can we do an exercise? (1:22:30) If you say you’re gonna text or call her later and you don’t (to show disinterest and to get her thinking about you) will you lose points in her mind because you don’t
