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Date: 03/05/22 (0:24) Discussion of Intermediate (2:30) Intermediate Sticking Points (2:44) 1. Too Direct (4:15) Learned as Beginner (Need Premise) (4:33) Got Cleverer (High Value Begging) (7:00) Still No Actual Disqualification (7:47) 2. The Algorithm (If it worked once..) (10:17) Looking at Game Black and White (10:54) It Depends (Is the answer to almost every good question in game) (12:47) Partly Cured with Reference Experiences (more reference=more options) (14:27) Should be cured with understanding (ask WHY) (15:12) 3. Leveling (Technically 1 and 2 are sort leveling) (16:45) Poker Analogy (19:32) Honest Signals (22:27) If it’s out of character (23:22) If you wouldn’t do it with a girl you’re already with (23:40) Ask (Someone with more experience) (24:38) 4. Going Backward (or going in circles) (26:24) You can’t open all the way to sex (27:05) You also can’t premise all the way to sex (28:49) Connection without escalation is also very inefficient (29:57) Similar “Sequencing Mistake“ (Closing from the open, and closing too much) (31:14) 5. No calibration to a blueprint (Kind of the ’“algorithm“ but less extreme) (32:32) You can get results this way (32:43) Range and Shift Illustration (38:12) I read recently a comment you made on the forum. You were saying that girls should be participating in my escalations and not just allowing them to happen. For the most part, the times I get the girl to participate in when I am being quite direct and hinting at sex. Other than that, my escalations are either too slow or make the girl pull away (mostly physical for the latter). What does it do in terms of the dynamic of the set when I establish the girl is the one chasing, but then I make some sexual suggestion, more overt than subtle let’s say? A specific example would be calling her a fine piece. (41:48) So game is more like a sport, where you have to adapt as you play. Not like playing piano, where you have to play the same sequence? (42:58) Getting good at game aside, if we know how to become famous or at least very well-known in an industry or domain, won’t that help with everything? Establishes value to a wide audience. (43:44) Speaking of blueprint, what advice do you have for me for gaming sassy girls? I’ve pointed out their sassy/obnoxious manners, but they tend to shut up or get scared. So it seems ineffective to call them out. But if I don’t, I really can’t keep up with their overall energy and I can’t handle the overall strength of their frame if I deal with them as equals. (48:55) Struggling to physically escalate on dates. In many bars, it feels more natural to sit opposite each other with a table as an obstacle in between us. How to counteract this during the date? (50:12) I’ve got the connection without escalation sticking point. Tips/exercises to breakthrough? (51:39) You said you can’t premise all the way to sex, girls need realness and connection. What do you mean by that and can you give examples of what realness would look like in the interaction? My main concern is losing premise, and turning a man-to-woman/sexual interaction into a friendly one when attempting to get more connection with the girl. (53:54) How to get better at self-assessment? It’s especially important in the set where I can’t ask a coach. (55:34) You mentioned disqualification and letting the girl win you over earlier. I’m too afraid to disqualify because I am worried that I may not have enough value yet to push the girl away. I’ve had situations where I said something like “you and I wouldn’t get along“ and the girl wasn’t bothered and politely said, “okay cool. Nice to meet you“. What advice would u give in that situation? (59:03) The thing is I don’t know what slower escalation would look like. The point of my question was direct escalations are the only thing I can do which *potentially* can lead somewhere. I.e. I am showing interest in my target, making it clear to the group what is going on. I mean, one step further than just establishing premise. It starts making more sense if I want to take the girl from her group etc. (1:02:33) How do you mix premise and connection throughout the interaction? Whenever I start talking about real things it feels like a step back in the interaction. It feels awkward to reintroduce sexuality in the conversation. (1:04:53) Just join now, would you say that self-deprecating humor should be minimized, or is it okay to do? (1:05:33) About being too direct, you said if you’re an 8, being direct could work with 6 and 7. My question is when you rank guys, are you mainly talking about looks in that context?
