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Weekly Q&A #2 — 8/1/21 Date: 8/1/21 (2:29) Advice for an older man (aged 36 and a divorcee) and who is coming out of a 5-year marriage? Before marrying, I was a high-beginner/low-intermediate PUA. (4:44) Your view on “Demonstration of Higher Value“? Seems the entire pickup community has abandoned the idea. Is stimulating emotions more important than DHV? (9:04) What’s your advice for a beginner who’s trying to take on high value behaviours in set but feels fake? I get discouraged when I keep failing congruence tests. (15:04) On one of my Dates from online (8) was not liking my attempt to do premise in the negative and disqualification to build premise. How to balance the positive and negative? (19:27) How to get girls with a lot of abundance? High quality girls always have a interesting lifestyle and “naturals“ trying to game them (24:00) Is playing hard to get or taking your time escalating on DTF girls a bad idea? I usually babystep my way to sex just to be sure and avoid looking thirsty. (26:28) How to stop anticipating a negative response on the open or while escalating? How do you detach your emotion from her reactions? (32:41) Talking to 9s and 10s feels like a constant frame battle. She either gives you the hot girl blasé or she’s rude & arrogant. How would you handle these situations? (37:48) How to train yourself to be more unreactive with women? That’s my biggest sticking point when passing shit tests. (42:07) Would I be wrong in my belief that game is about sub communicating to the girl that you’re sleeping with other girls? (44:37) How can a beginner have an abundance mindset when he clearly doesn’t have other options? It’s not easy to be confident in scarcity. (50:32) How to manage expectation? I would easily get excited when girls display IOI and heavily disappointed if IOD or lack of IOI.. (52:34) How to stop comparing myself with “naturals“ and handsome dudes? (57:03) How to avoid being too “gamey“? (1:01:29) Daygame quick number ( text game follow-up) vs longer interaction, which one is more preferable? (1:02:42) How important is it to have rational similarities in connecting (art, hiking, soccer etc.) how to connect without these similarities, more on vibe and emotion? (1:04:48) What are the fundamentals of day game you need to have a good set? (1:05:48) What are the fundamental components of a tease? I just can’t understand how to come up with any especially when there is nothing unusual about her or the situation. (1:08:44) Should you disqualify right after you compliment her? (1:09:44) Sometimes I get nice open other times I get the opposite seems almost like random. Am I doing something wrong? How can I work on getting more consistently good opens? (1:12:32) If you don’t have pre-selection do the other forms of value matter? (1:12:54) I think looks play huge role in making people buy the idea that you are high value. (1:14:20) So, great sets come from not being so emotionally gratifying and would needing her reaction? (1:15:48) Should you be delusional in game i.e. girls liking you despite the negative reaction? (1:16:51) What should my process be for turning observations into a tease? (1:17:56) I learn english as second language. I keep improving my english. I know I’ll never speak in english as good as my mother tongue language. Have you had any student like me? How much can this affect game? Any particular advice? (1:20:33) When evaluating a girl ask if she cooks, is it enough? Or asking in a more flirty way like knowing how to cook will affect the relationship? (1:22:04) After opener and premise, what’s better asking, “to get to know you“ questions or telling stories? (1:23:59) How to avoid being a dancing monkey? (1:24:58) Is teasing a way of evaluating a girl? (1:27:00) How to game 9s and 10s in loud dance floor? (1:28:23) What are some of the high points in an interaction? How can they be known and what is their purpose? (1:29:53) In situations where you have to do an opener that looks trying hard, such as walking across a whole balcony. Do you open any differently to handle the frame of looking try hard?
