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Date: 03/16/22 0:26) Approach Anxiety Lecture (07:41) Act of physical movement, Just walk over. (09:14) If I get really anxious I will go in a toilet cubicle and take some deep breaths if it is too bad. (09:32) My approach anxiety mainly manifests itself before I even go out, as I am getting prepared. When I am in the field, I can do crazy approaches, flag girls in groups down. It is really second nature by now. Emotions I experience before the fact, as I am getting dressed and ready, ranging from boredom to anger, frustration, outright refusing to take action. This has been the case for essentially 2 months now, but it started more mildly in January. Advice on ameliorating this state of mind? (13:00) Next thing, What are the other things that people keep from approaching? (13:26) Solution (14:00) Change your physiology (23:46) Making out with a random drunk girl can help if you can find one. (24:00) Action Approach (29:15) Psychology/Reframing Approach (33:08) Long Term, Series of successful experiences (37:35) Intermediate/Advanced Approach Anxiety (40:23) It feels ridiculously hard to overcome past wins. (40:37) My most recent solution to Approach Anxiety is just to say hey, excuse me. Love the look (day game). (43:00) Watch Todd’s infield before going out. (43:25) Loads of people are already on drugs and alcohol otherwise they would have approach anxiety. (44:39) Coffee actually helped me last week. (44:44) Coffee makes me talk too much. (44:49) Coming off of a sickness, I legitimately thought preparing a thermos of tea for nights out would be immensely helpful potentially. (45:00) Ice cream helped me in the past. (45:03) Literally to get hydrated, appreciate a moment of quiet and privacy. (45:40) Is there a way to permanently fix approach anxiety or do you have to do that every time you go out? (48:16) I noticed I actually get approached more for little things when I’m genuinely happy walking around. (48:42) I actually try to talk to the hottest girls more. For some reason it’s easier. (49:46) One of the physiological tricks I’ve tried (along with pretty much all of Todd’s) is something called physiological sigh (which is supposed to calm you down): double inhale followed by a deep exhale. (50:22) What’s it called when we see others doing it and it helps us see its not so scary? That’s what helps me. (50:49) It’s harder to approach without wing too if no one else is approaching. (52:15) Oh shit, I remembered all the questions I have about that breakdown. (53:30) My approach anxiety mainly manifests itself before I even go out, as I am getting prepared. When I am in the field, I can do crazy approaches, flag girls in groups down. It’s really second nature by now. Emotions I experience before the fact, as I am getting dressed and ready, range from boredom to anger, frustration, outright refusing to take action. This has been the case for essentially 2 months now, but it started more mildly in January. Advice on ameliorating this state of mind? (54:20) Todd, for me I get anxious in a venue when I don’t feel welcome there. I.e. with a lot of girls who rarely smile or look a bitchy and people don’t acknowledge you when you go inside vs being at your own birthday party vibe etc. Maybe I need to adopt a new frame or perspective? (58:05) I couldn’t get on the February mission due to it coinciding with a crazy crazy diet I started. It left me with no mental capital to focus on anything else. Would you still offer insights into how I can fulfil the mission on the forum, if I share my goal? (58:55) Stupid question. For people who are only focused on their careers and are struggling to get them out of home. Put going out until later. I know I need more character, perhaps meditate on the process. It’s kind of hard to start to go out alone and approach when you’re a beginner. Do you have any thoughts or advice on this? (1:02:11) I sometimes feel too anxious to approach a hot girl , who seems to have a strong frame and cold. I feel like I will get an instant rejection if I try to challenge her frame. What to do in that situation? (1:03:29) I have a friend who doesn’t like to do an approach with a wing, he prefers for the wing to come in a bit after because he thinks if you approach with a wing it looks low value. What do you think of this? (1:04:45) Knowing that I am inexperienced with girls and have bad social skills, prevents me from approaching out of fear of looking weird and creeping the girl out. How to combat that feeling? (1:07:00) What is the best way to handle the jealous boyfriend that one had not noticed? (1:07:13) I am more anxious approaching groups in day game. I felt bad not approaching a hot girl with her parents. How can I get better at this? (1:11:08) Do we have time to do an exercise? (
